Here's How To Get The Hottest Séx

Despite all of the recent hystéria over young
women ruining their lives by delaying marriage
and "hooking up," a new survey suggests what
most people probably already know -- women
(and men) still value an emotional connection
when it comes to their séx lives.
A recent Duréx survey of 2,000 men and women (all
of whom were at least 25 years old) found that 87
percent of women reported that their "hottest séx"
was with a partner who they trusted and had a prior
relationship with (a.k.a. not a random one-night
stand with a stranger). The vast majority of men (95
percent) also agreed that an emotional connection
makes a séxual experience more satisfying, and both
genders said they cared more about satisfying their
partner than themselves.
This suggests that women -- and men -- are
ultimately looking for more than a hookup with a
stranger. The survey doesn't indicate whether these
hot séxual experiences took place in the context of
serious relationships or in the contéxt of casual
relationships that still involved trust, but it means we
probably don't need to be wringing our hands over
the romantic priorities of people in their 20s and 30s.
In her book "The End Of Men," journalist Hanna Rosin
argued that early-20s hookup culture actually
benefits women in the long run and does not
precludé them from finding a long-term, emotionally
satisfying relationship later on. "Ultimately, the
desire for a deeper human connection always wins
out, for both men and women," she wrote in an
excerpt printed in The Atlantic in September 2012.
"Their hookup years are likely to end up as a series of
photographs, buried somewhere on their Facebook
page, that they do or don't share with their husband
-- a memory that they recall fondly or sourly, but that
hardly defines them."
It seems that if women and men are searching for
something deeper and more satisfying (both
physically and emotionally) than a series of casual
hookups, they will find it eventually.