engage in orál séx. Matter-of-factly, to many, orál séx
is more pléasurable than genital penetrátion. In
America, different slangs have been coined for orál
séx – Blów Jób, Gó-Dówn-Sóuth, Go-Dówn, Gét-A-
Héad, 69-Pósition and the list goes on. For those who
care about medical terminólogy, Cúnnilingus refers
to orál séx performed on females while fellatió refers
to orál séx performed on males.
For the most part, majority of Africans (especially
African men) shun orál séx either for religious,
cultural or traditional reasons. The few that engage in
it will deny it vehemently in public because they see
it as a disdainful "girly-man" séxual activity. A real
man should be able to give a woman the same
pléasure using his séx órgan, they will argue. In
Nigeria for example, there are different dénigrating
words for describing men that pérform orál séx on
womén.
Some years ago, a young American lady once
cónfided that she broke up with her "African
Boyfriend" because he refused to perfórm orál séx on
her even though he wants her to perform orál séx on
him. "It is not right. It is very selfish of him. When I
asked him why, he said he's a prince and it is
fórbidden for a Nigerian prince to do such things",
she complained.
However, many African men who are married to
Westerners would tell you they have no choice
perfórming orál séx on their partnérs. Some African
women on the other hand who will like to have orál
séx with their partner shy away from saying it
because they do not want to be labeled as being
"spóilt" or séxually pérverted which might lead to
the ruin of their relationship.
Maybe not the younger Africans; but the middle-aged
and older Africans (male and female alike) in the
Western World have given reasons (real or
fabricatéd) for refusing to engage in orál séx. Many
will tell you it is bad (without any scientific proof) but
based on what they heard from their parents or other
adults in Africa.
In recent weeks, the claim by Michael
Douglas' (America famous actor) that orál séx might
be the cause of his throat cancer has shed light on
the "safety" of orál séx. In a candid interview with
the Guardian newspaper, the actor said that he didn't
regret his years of smoking and drinking, which were
thought to be the cause of his cancer when he was
diagnosed three years ago. "No. Because without
wanting to get too specific, this particular cancer is
caused by HPV [Human Papillomávirus], which
actually comes about from cúnnilingus," he said.
Although it is known in some circles for years now
that HPV contracted from orál séx along with
smoking, could indeed bring on some types of orál
cancers but not many people are informed about it,
especially young people. It is believed that HPV
inféctions usually don't cause any signs or symptoms
in either séx, but some types can cause genitál
wárts. High-risk types of HPV can cause pérsistent
infection, which can gradually turn into cancer, and
usually only cérvical cancer.
According to the US Centers for Disease Control,
about 79 million Americans are currently infected
with the disease and HPV is so common that nearly
all séxually-active men and women will get at least
one type of HPV at some point in their lives.
One is tempted to think that Micheal Douglas' public
outcry on orál séx as probable cause of his cancer
and the recent studies on Cúnnilingus diseases
vindicaté the wisdom behind majority of Africans
shunning orál séx. Could it be that the great
ancestors of Africa knew about these diseases
thousands of years ago and as such abstainéd from
such acts?
For many African men in the Diaspora, it is a
recurring relationship challenge especially for those
that are married or in a relationship with none-
Africans. Studies show that it is easier for an African-
African partner to understandably deal with it if one
partner is interested in orál séx and the other does
not than for an African and a none-African
relationship.
Like the American lady insinuatéd, many people have
come to argue that réciprocity exists in séx,
specifically orál séx, because if one wants to receive
it, they also have to give it. So they pérform orál séx
simply as a condition for receiving it.
The question is: As an African, will you perform orál
séx on your partner if he or she request or indicaté
interést in it with or without the latest revélation
about orál séx?
What is your opinion on this issue?
May God bless Africans and all those in the Diaspora!
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